First Time Buyer Archives - Michael Inkman

Asking your parents to co-sign a mortgage can be one of the most vulnerable conversations you will ever have. It is not just about paperwork and finances, it is about trust, timing, and long-term commitment. Whether you are a first-time buyer or trying to qualify for better loan terms, a co-signer can make a big difference, but only if everyone involved is fully informed and comfortable.

Understand What Co-Signing Really Means
Before bringing it up, make sure you understand what co-signing a mortgage involves. A co-signer is not just offering moral support, they are legally agreeing to repay the loan if you cannot. Their credit and financial standing are on the line. Be ready to explain what this means in plain terms and show that you are approaching the conversation with maturity and respect.

Choose the Right Time and Setting
This is not a casual conversation to squeeze in during dinner or between errands. Pick a calm moment when your parents are not distracted or stressed. Let them know ahead of time that you would like to discuss something important and ask for a moment of their time. Creating a respectful and relaxed environment helps everyone stay open and focused.

Share Your Why With Honesty
Parents want to help their children succeed, but they also want to know your intentions. Why is co-signing necessary? Have you explored all other options? How will this help you build stability? Be honest about your financial situation, your goals, and how this opportunity fits into your long-term plan. Show them that you are not just asking for help, you are taking responsibility.

Show That You Are Prepared
Come to the conversation with documentation or research. Outline the loan you are applying for, the projected monthly payments, and how you plan to stay on top of your finances. If possible, have a mortgage professional help you explain the numbers. Demonstrating that you have done your homework builds credibility and reassures them that you are thinking ahead.

Be Ready for Questions and Concerns
This will likely not be a one-and-done conversation. Your parents may have questions about risks, credit, or even emotional concerns. Be patient. Listen to their perspective and be open to their feedback. They may need time to process everything, and that is okay.

Respect Their Decision
No matter how the conversation goes, be grateful for their time and honesty. If they choose not to co-sign, try not to take it personally. There may be financial or emotional reasons you are not aware of. Thank them for considering it and keep working toward your goal, there are always other paths to homeownership. Give us a call and we can discuss all of your options together.

Lee Vanvolkenburg

15:43 23 Nov 23

Michael and his team were wonderful to deal with. They were excellent with communication and always available to answer questions. Thank you all!

williams lovos

22:54 16 Nov 23

We close on the house tomorrow! Thank you David and Michael for making my first home buying a smooth process. I had several out of the ordinary situations that would had easily not been possible to get the loan in the time that they were able to approve it. My wife and I are forever grateful for the work the team did. Thank you again!

Mario Silvestri III

16:45 16 Nov 23

Rex Perkins

16:56 15 Nov 23

Everything had been going well over the past two years since refinancing an existing mortgage. The application process, approval, servicing website, everything had been very smooth, nothing but the best service. I then had a minor issue arise. We had a wind loss claim on our home and, unfortunately, I had put off getting the check cosigned until the last minute. An issue arose as part of a minor miscommunication in terms of where the check was to be forwarded for endorsement.

To make a long story short, I feared that this miscommunication and misdirected check coupled with my procrastination were going to result in the check expiring and a huge hassle on my part to go through the process again. Mr. Inkman nor his branch were in any way involved with my account or account management, yet, the check inadvertently ended up in their draft loss department and I feared this would further delay things. I was a bit frantic.

One of those that I emailed was Mr. Inkman. In an era when customer service is not as valued as in the past, I was very skeptical I would meet the deadline. But, to my surprise, Mr. Inkman took it on his own to personally get things done and get the issue resolved. It appears that he tracked down the overnighted check personally, directed it for signature, packaged and overnighted the check back to me. All the while remaining professional and pleasant and providing consistent email updates on the status. It doesn't even look like he delegated, rather taking the initiative and seeing it through on his own.

To me, that's not just doing a job, that's going above and beyond in terms of leadership, professionalism, and customer service. We could not be more happy. And, as a further sign of good will, the Fairway CEO actually emailed me personally to follow-up and assure resolution. Been very happy with Fairway since my refinance, Mr. Inkman's efforts only further reinforce that opinion.

Samer Fallouh

15:01 15 Nov 23

Debbie Salas

21:47 03 Oct 23

This transaction probably would not have happened without Michael. Whenever we hit a stumbling block, he found a way around it! He kept us informed and was a positive light all the way through to the end and beyond.
Thanks

Eric Kieffer

22:46 16 Aug 23

Did business with Michael about 20 years ago and he was happy to help us again. He and his team did a great job. See you in another 20.

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